I have been with Cody for 4 years now and fun fact: this is the longest relationship either of us have ever been in.
Personally, I love being married! It’s so nice to have a sense of stability in your life. It gives you the ability to successfully focus on other things because you’re not constantly worried about your relationship. Cody has definitely been that for me. He is my rock. And I know that that’s cliché to say, but it’s absolutely true. Every single thought that pops into my head throughout the course of a day, Cody hears it. Whether we’re sitting next to each other and my word vomit is in full force or one of us is out running errands and we’re texting each other constantly. We’ve always had that kind of relationship, we share everything.
So it came as a bit of a surprise to me the other day when Cody was out in the front yard and I was watching him work on his latest project and I realized something I never noticed before. He woke up one day and decided that he was going to make a stone path for our garbage cans to sit on. I don’t know how he came to think that we needed to do that but he did and he instantly got to work on it. So as I was sitting there watching him, I was thinking about all of the various projects that my husband takes on. He calls himself an “idea man” and that is absolutely true. The man never sits still. He always has to be creating something and honestly, as his wife, that can be frustrating because I want him to see things through to the end and just perfect one thing at a time.
But at that moment, I thought of a conversation that we just had a few weeks prior.
Cody was laughing at me because I tend to get overwhelmed and talk about how much I have on my plate and then as soon as the dust settles a little bit, I decide to take on more projects and put more on my plate because honestly, having a lot on my plate gives me a sense of purpose and really fills my cup. I need to feel like I’m constantly evolving. Complacency is the enemy of progress. So, I too, am always starting some new project. Whether it’s planning a trip for the family, renovating something in the house or creating a new work project. I’m never sitting still.
When I added this conversation up with the characteristics of my husband, I realized, “Wow. I married someone just like me.”
I had never even dated someone who had the jitterbug like me and here I am, four years later, realizing I married one.
Now I feel like I understand him more and I never want to be the one to put out that amazing fire. I hate when people tell me I can’t do something and I definitely don’t want to be that for him.
So from now on when he tells me he wants to organize a national treasure hunt (stay tuned) or even if he told me he wants to become a pirate.. which could definitely happen, I’ll make sure I’m not too logical and help fan that flame instead.
Who said you can’t teach an old dog new tricks?